Webster defines commitment as, a pledge or promise; dedication to a long-term course of action.
If you and your partner love each other and are in a healthy relationship, marriage may be a good choice for you. However, it’s not necessarily a good idea to get married just because you are pregnant.
True commitment, as evidenced by marriage, is much more likely to endure when times get tough – when your health is bad, when you have lost your job and the financial worries are piling up, or when the death of a loved one is hurting you. Think about it. Do you really want to go through the tough times alone? If you really love each other, life is just simply better together.
Heard this one?
“If we live together first, we’ll be able to see if we can really get along.”
Living together weakens or impairs the attitudes of both partners toward commitment – the one thing that will truly keep you together. Instead of staying in for the “long haul”, most couples just living together will throw in the towel and leave. This creates a great deal of pain to have to live with the rest of your life.
Heard this one?
“But, I am committed to you, I just don’t want to get married!”
Commitment is more than just wanting to live with each other. It is a deep and lasting bond that says “no matter what, I’m sticking with you.” If you truly are committed to each other, why wouldn’t you want to get married? What’s holding you back? Studies show that living together weakens your views of marriage and commitment. In fact, if you are not willing to commit, freedom is really what you are wanting - the freedom to do what you want and when you want. These kinds of situations most of the time lead to affairs, and then, someone always gets tremendously hurt. Each loss in your life makes it difficult for you to trust someone in the future. You, naturally, want to protect your heart from ever being hurt again.
Heard this one?
“We’ll be happier, if we don’t tie the knot.”
Sure, marriage is not a fairy tale, but studies show that marriage is much more fulfilling, including sexually, than just being in a live-in relationship.
Sexual activity should wait until you are married.
Bottom line, marriage offers greater rewards for you emotionally and physically. If you love each other, why wouldn’t you want to give you and your partner the best chance at a great relationship?